Our competitiveness is being smothered by correctness.
The natural desire to compete is in all of us, of course at various levels. What we are competing for and amongst who, may influence our desire and fearlessness.
Some of us are playing the game to do the right thing rather than competing and making decisions based on what is actually happening around us.
This is a problem because we are consistently playing for approval or some outside grade rather than solving the problem that is created in front of us because the end goal is that we want to win.
If we ask any kid, they will say yes they want to win or they should say it unless they have been polluted with the famous saying that winning doesn’t matter, it is just about having fun. I am all for fun and chasing a win is very fun!
But how do we win? By possessing the competence to execute and giving the effort that is required while using our senses to identify the things happening around us. These signals may guide us to do what we believe is going to be in our favor or give us an advantage or help one of our teammates gain an advantage. This is competition. Awareness of our personal and collective strengths and weaknesses will benefit us with confident action in ways that will increase the likelihood of a winning outcome.
We are all fully capable of giving our best effort, always.
When we believe there is a goal we would be proud of achieving or a consequence we prefer not to deal with, the consistency improves. Some people keep giving their best because they do not want to deal with consequential suffering which can be a driver. The other more positive driver is to chase joy and satisfaction of achievement. Either way, the most important component is to have that driver that will push us forward without thinking about “is this right?”
Whether it was right or wrong can be discussed based on the information that was used to make the decision. Now the process begins of teaching and learning.
Without reasons behind our actions we will only assume an action was right or wrong based on the outcome or if it is aligned with our personal opinion.
Yours in soccer,