Roberto Baggio was my idol growing up! I used to watch him play on Rai on Sunday mornings (that was the only time and day there was soccer on TV) before church or my own soccer games. My fondest memory of him was the 1994 World Cup, here in USA. I had the great fortune of attending the Italian National team training session before the world cup began with my father, where I met Baggio and many others on the team. This World Cup ended poorly for Baggio and the entire country of Italy as he missed the final penalty in the finals against Brazil. This tragic ending to the world cup sticks in the memory of millions of people. Very few people can relate to this specific failure however, we do understand that there must have been an emotional healing process.
Noticing a person who is confident in a specific subject is usually based on their actions, body language and statements made however, this observation is a matter of opinion.
Anyone who is on a journey towards achieving something is going to feel moments of uncertainty and loss of confidence. Players at the professional level deal with this often and that is why sport psychologists are becoming more and more crucial at the highest levels.
The process of developing self-confidence must come from within. If we rely purely on others to give us confidence we are vulnerable to external forces (positive and negative) that will control our levels of assurance.
Since we are social animals, there is always the chance of an interaction with others being encouraging or undesirable. For this reason, our support system of those closest to us plays an important role. While it is comforting to have these people in your life, it can be harmful if your closest supporters lack the awareness and knowledge on the subject you are struggling with.
We might not understand what our friend, child, sibling, cousin, teammate or parent is going through, even after they share their struggles with us. When we know that we don’t know, I believe the best approach is to support someone on the things we do know about them to bring reassurance.
The simple reminder from someone you trust that they are there for you can be the ignition to attack the areas you know you need to work on. In the end, our loved ones are important to the process; however, each one of us is the owner of our self-confidence.
Yours in soccer,